It can be hard to decide what to do when he stops calling and texting.
When it comes to dating, one of the most frustrating things is when you see a guy who suddenly disappears and seems out of nowhere.
Maybe stop texting. Maybe he promises to call you and then he doesn’t. When a guy doesn’t call or text you, it can drive you crazy.
You will be left wondering why your man has stopped communicating with you. The confident part of your brain wants to believe that something unavoidable (but not dangerous) has happened like his phone died or he’s really overwhelmed with work and busy with things he can’t control.
Or maybe your phone is broken and your text didn’t go through, so he was trying to call you without your knowledge.
Then there’s that miserable part of your brain that perceives the worst possible outcomes, causing feelings of rejection.
What does it mean when a guy stops texting and calling you?
Men stop communicating for a number of reasons.
Maybe his attention strayed elsewhere, maybe he’s afraid that things are serious, or maybe he just didn’t get over his ex.
When a guy stops texting and calling you, he usually says more about him than he talks about you. But sometimes guys back off if you play hard to get for too long and put him in a situation where he’s always chasing you and leaving him unsure of how you feel about him. Guys love to chase, but only for a long time.
Or, you could have said something that was unsettling to him and he doesn’t know how to confront you about it.
How do you deal with this vanishing man? What do you do exactly when it shuts up?
Follow these tips on what to do when he stops calling and texting you.
1. Stop bombarding him with messages.
When someone isn’t responding to you, the worst thing you can do is bombard them with your private messages. It’s the easiest and fastest way to push someone away.
I know how annoying it is to go without feedback; However, don’t start sending a bunch of text or calling, also make sure to avoid sending direct messages on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or any other social media you connect with. If you leave a voice message, you may sound needy or intimidated.
And don’t text his friends to see if he’s with them. This just sounds desperate (and makes you look a little crazy).
2. Follow the three-day rule
The three-day rule is usually used after the first date, but it can be put into practice at any time during a relationship or situation.
Simply take a three-day break from texting and call him to see if he’ll start the conversation. You can do this when he stops communicating to give him time to come back. Equal effort in communication is good for a relationship.
If he doesn’t reply to your message within three days or if he says he’ll call and never does, shoot him with an easy, casual, and terrifying text.
Be spontaneous about it. If you send a crazy and demanding text, he will definitely not answer.
And I will personally drop it completely if you don’t get a response after the second time you try.
3. Communicate personally if possible
Try to see him face to face, as you will feel his vitality. In addition, it will give you the opportunity to dress up to impress and interest him.
Guys tend to be visual creatures (just like women, but we don’t need to go there now), and sometimes they need a friendly reminder of how great you are.
You’ll know that something has happened if he’s acting unusual or really avoidant when he sets his eyes on you.
4. Be careful who you complain about
I understand that this whole scenario is probably making you really upset and crazy. Just be careful who you complain about.
I wouldn’t complain to any friends you have in common with this person because they can easily go back and tell them what you said, or worse, make things more interesting and make you look crazy.
Vent out to your family members or friends who you know you can trust, but don’t let too many people know that you’re upset.
5. Avoid writing about it on social media
Again, you don’t want this to be a public affair. It’s between you and that person and no one else’s business.
Avoid tweeting lewd comments or making vague, vague reservations on Facebook that are clearly about him and the situation.
You might think that doing this will get his attention and signal him to call or text you, but it will definitely make you look immature and annoying – and stop him completely.
6. Don’t wait for it
When someone bothers you, I understand how easy it is to get possessive as you anxiously await any possible text or message from that guy. But whatever you do, don’t bother waiting for it.
Don’t spend your days sitting near the phone desperately waiting for his phone calls, ready to pick up the phone before the first ring. Live your life, and try to put it in the back of your mind.
7. Go ahead and cut your losses
If he never reacts to anything you do, seriously, just forget about it and move on.
Paying him no attention and doing what you want will give you a much better message than sending him a long text explaining why he’s a bag of dirt.
And if he’s not going to respect you enough to answer you, then he’s not worth your time at all.
These are your options for what to do when he shuts up. When he suddenly stops calling you, you have to maintain your dignity and self-respect. If he had already gone into stealth, that was his loss.