If you find yourself falling in love with your best friend and don’t know what to do, the tips below are just for you.
There are things in life that are out of our control – like the family we are born into, or the people we are attracted to and fall in love with.
That’s why, sometimes, our attention drifts to people we could never have, people we should never have put up with in the first place. But matters of the heart are difficult to control.
This is why you find romantic interest growing among mothers and their in-laws, among people who have differed in ages for decades, and certainly, people who are just starting to be friends.It’s okay to feel scared when you fall in love with a friend because it may be the beginning of the end of that relationship [Credit – iStock]
If you find yourself falling in love with your best friend and don’t know what to do, the tips below are just for you:
Understand what’s at stake
It is important to understand what is at stake and the things you are likely to lose by letting that feeling linger. There is actually a chance that your best friend will like you, and there is also the possibility that he wants nothing but friendship.
Is it worth saying something?
It’s also important to ask yourself if what you’re feeling is something that could translate into a real relationship or if you just crave them? Put your feelings into perspective – do you find them exciting and want to know what it feels like to have sex with him or her, or do you really consider them relationship material and want to build a serious relationship out of the friendship you already have with them?Make sure the relationship is worth pursuing before you do anything about it [Credit – Akron]
Now if your boyfriend is someone who doesn’t appreciate casual sex, it makes no sense to bring up the topic because you already know where he stands on the topic, and what his response will likely be.
So, really, you just have to ask yourself: Is it worth saying anything about your feeling?
Find out if your friend is feeling the same way
The fact that this is your crushing friend makes your job easier … kind of.
The closeness you have with him or her can be used to your advantage. So judge by what you can observe whether or not they are keen to take the relationship to a higher level. Do you think he feels the same way about you? Or do you think there’s a chance they’ll want to know if it’s time to take your “relationship” from friendship to the next level?You might end up having a boyfriend and lover in the same person. [Credit – Ask Men]
Be prepared to accept your friend’s decision
Now you need to know that whatever you do in a situation like this is a risk.
It’s a difficult situation when you think about it; They might be great with being friends but nothing more than that. In this case, you have been assigned a friendship zone and knowledge can stress the relationship in ways that will upset and change what you are doing.
But whatever their decision is, you have to respect it. Whether you are cool with her or not.
Find a way forward
If they were nice to turn friendship into dating, it was easy and there was no need to worry.
If this idea is not promoted, you will also have to decide whether or not you want to remain friends with them. Which is great no matter what you decide. Just make up your mind on whether or not you want to remain friends with them.